Treatment and prevention of "stuck" situations (vaginism, paraphimosis) on the wedding night

What to do if a couple gets "stuck" on their wedding night?

During a man's first sexual intercourse, the man uses his erect penis to penetrate the woman's hymen and the relatively tight vaginal opening. A virgin's vagina is already quite tight, and given it's her first time having sex with a man, many women naturally experience tension and fear, making the vagina even tighter. If the newlyweds are not adequately prepared before intercourse, and the husband forces penetration, vaginal spasms can easily occur, leading to an inability to separate after intercourse. When vaginal spasms occur, some of the foreskin, which is normally unable to retract, can be forcibly pulled back, tightly constricting the tip of the penis like a hoop. This obstructs blood circulation to the glans penis, causing swelling, excruciating pain, and even ischemia and necrosis.

If severe spasms cause both partners' genitals to become "stuck" and unable to separate, it is crucial to remain calm and avoid panic. A sudden stimulation method can be used, such as splashing a basin of cold water on the vagina to cause a sudden muscle contraction, followed by relaxation, which can relieve the spasm. During vaginal spasms, intercourse should be temporarily interrupted until the spasm subsides. Repeat the interruption process if spasms recur; this usually alleviates the spasm. If this is unsuccessful, consult a specialist at a reputable hospital.

The key to preventing vaginismus is that both partners should have some sexual knowledge, have sufficient foreplay before intercourse to stimulate sexual arousal, and ensure that the vagina is fully lubricated before intercourse. Rough sexual impulses should be avoided, and intercourse should be gentle to achieve sexual harmony.

If paraphimosis occurs, the groom should immediately attempt to treat it himself. He should use the index and middle fingers of both hands to grasp the penis under the foreskin and use his thumbs to forcefully push the penis back into the foreskin. If he cannot handle it himself, he should immediately seek medical attention at a reputable hospital.